People Talking About People

I guess it is the human nature to talk; talk about anything, anytime, anywhere and anyone…
But is there a limit? Or, is it okay to talk about anything to anyone? And if it is okay, then is it okay to talk trash (gossip) about someone and turn around smile on his or her faces?

Majority of the time, although you might not be the “gossiper”, you would find yourself in the middle of a conversation about someone you know. During my 12 years in America, I had to teach myself the right way to handle these kinds of conversations. Sometimes it is easy but sometimes it is very hard.

Have you ever found yourself in between a couple that just had a fight? Most likely you have to take a side, right? And then, what happens when you do that? When the couple makes up, you are the bad guy/girl..! All the bad stuff that was said by the side that you took was forgotten and all the little things you said would be told the other side. Not a fun situation to be in…

What about talking about other couples with other couples… Think about a night out with your significant other and few of your closer friends. After a few drinks, someone ask about the couple who is not the party and there we go. All the “bad” things these people (let’s call them A & B) had been doing would be talked in that meeting. How bad A smells, how spoiled B is, how much B talks, how terrible are these people are, etc., etc… Next thing you know, you see one of those couples from that party hanging out with A&B like nothing has happened or said.

To be honest with you, this disgusts me..! Can someone tell me how people can talk about someone else so badly that if it is up to them, they would make the other person disappear permanently, “act” as nothing has been said? Is it okay to be politic with your friends?

Bottom-line is, I am tired of hearing about people gossiping about other people who they would call their friends. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to hang out with him or her. And if you do like the person that much that you are concern about something in their life, don't gossip about it, just be a man and speak up - let it to his or her face! It really makes me sick seeing people hanging out with the people that they gossiped about a night or a few hours before…

That makes me wonder;
- Do they talk about me as well?
- What do they say?
- Can I trust this person?
- Is he/she mature enough to tell me if I do something wrong?

Let's make a deal, this is a personal request, if you don't like me or just hang out with me because you have to, please don't..!!!!

Thanks in advance for not....